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When my family decided to go into the foster care program, we were full of anticipation and curiosity. We knew that it would be rewarding, but we under-estimated just how rewarding it could be. The experiences I have had over the several years of fostering have been funny, educating, challenging and emotional.
I always look forward to having children come. I have never really disliked any of the kids who have come to us, nor have I ever wished that we hadn't become part of the foster care program. It has taught me a lot about children, different discipline techniques and the psychology of what makes them work.
We do respites, not only for natural parents, but also for other foster carers who have long-term, or permanent placements. Some placements have been due to abuse, some have been because a mother is going into hospital and has no family and some have been due to the parent going overseas for a few weeks. These have given us insight into many different procedures needed for each type. We have also been given the chance to accept or reject all possible placements, and to specify the age groups that would suit our family.
OzChild has been extremely supportive, providing us with all information necessary (if they have it). They also provide advice and support if needed.
The people who can foster should do it as soon as they can, because it is desperately important. It is hard to think of the other families and children who don't get the support of a foster family, simply because there isn't one for them.
I feel fostering has enriched my life.
OzChild service area: Foster Care |
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Amy & Erin |
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Amy, aged four and Erin, aged two, are sisters who came into foster care when their mother was experiencing domestic violence, homelessness and drug issues. Amy had a range of phobias and was terrified of the vacuum, the bath and loud noises.
Erin was also beginning to develop phobias like her sister. Both sisters had no routine, had trouble sleeping and eating and had a number of challenging behaviours.
OzChild worked with the carer and other agencies to address these issues. Twelve months on, Amy and Erin's phobias and challenging behaviours have now ceased and they are happy and very settled with their carer.
OzChild service area: Foster Care |
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Tannesha |
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Tannesha, aged 4, was living with her mother, Abby, who was dealing with mental health and drug abuse issues. Abby was unable to provide a safe and stable home, and Tannesha was placed in out of home care. Due to Tannesha's past experiences of trauma she was withdrawn and refused all food.
Abby's sister, Sylvia, who had a strong relationship with Tannesha, was seen as a potential carer. The required assessment process was undertaken. Once a decision was made that Sylvia would be able to appropriately care for Tannesha, the OzChild Kinship Care team was asked to support Sylvia to provide full time care of Tannesha.
Moving in with Sylvia gave Tannesha a strong sense of belonging and maintained her family identity. With the support of the Kinship Care team, Sylvia and Tannesha have built a loving relationship. Tannesha is eating well and has become a confident and happy child.
OzChild service area: Kinship Care |
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The Brown family |
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The younger child in the 'Brown' family has only hazy memories of his mother as he was only 18 months old when he was taken into care by Child Protection. The two older children however, had frightening memories of violent rows between their mother and their stepfather - rows which sometimes spilled over to include them as targets for their stepfather's anger. They remembered the hunger, the moving from place to place, the teasing and bullying they experienced at school when they turned up unkempt and smelly, and seeing their mother drugged to the point where she was unable to respond the essential needs of the younger child.
The two older children had spent some time in foster care but had been returned home when the mother's ability to look after her children appeared to have improved. However, when she partnered with the father of the youngest child, the family situation deteriorated due to the parents' increased drug use. The mother's death from an overdose was the trigger for Child Protection to take the children into protective custody.
Initially the children were placed in a residential unit so that they could be kept together. However, despite the care they received at the unit, the regular change over of rostered staff at the unit heightened their insecurities. Fortunately, through OzChild's sibling group program, a foster family was found who were happy to take all three children so that they could stay together. A van was organised for the foster family, who already had two teenage children, so that everyone could go out together.
The initial period of adjustment was not without its difficulties, particularly for the older two children, who had significant behavioural problems as a consequence of the abuse and neglect that they had been exposed to. Gradually with patience and skill, the carers, supported by their OzChild caseworker, built a warm and trusting relationship with the older children. The younger child quickly responded to the warm, nurturing care and soon started to catch up on his developmental milestones. Several years later the children are still with their OzChild carers and they now have a far greater chance to take a different journey in life to that of their parents.
OzChild service area: Foster Care |
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